Friday, October 31, 2008
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Sorry for the delay in my post. We didn't find out what happened yesterday until just this morning. They said that the meeting went really long. I prayed that at the meeting, everyone would see the "true colors" of the Birthmom and the Grandparents. It seems that is exactly what happened. The Birthmom got mad at what was being said in the meeting and she stormed out of the room a couple of times. The Grandparents have NOT been approved yet to take the baby. Their home has been approved but they haven't.
DCFS is going to recommend to the judge that the Grandparents have individual counceling, couples counceling, and parenting classes. The Grandma was not happy about that. She doesn't want parenting classes. The Grandparents also have like 9 fractions against them on record with DCFS. The Judge would have to dismiss all of them. (I think) They are recommending that all of that happens before they can get the baby. So that means the Judge would give them a couple of months to do that....or he can dismiss all of it and give them the baby.
All of that to say...we get her until November 7th. Matt is going to go to court to see what happens. Thank you for praying! Pray that the Judge does not give them custody on that day. Then....there will be more waiting. Also pray that the court will give us permission to take the baby to Washington for Christmas. God is good!
( I hope that this all makes sense.)
Posted by Kelli at 10:50 AM
Monday, October 27, 2008
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Saturday, October 25, 2008
Posted by Kelli at 10:16 PM
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
I had a visit with the birthmom today. As I walked in the door, the DCFS social worker met me . She said that the Grandparent's home was approved and the DCFS wanted to take Sissy out of our home yesterday (we didn't know that that could happen.) This social worker told them not to do it because she has some concerns about the Grandparents. They are going to have a board metting with the grandparents this coming Tuesday to ask them questions and determine what to do (it is very possible that they could decide to take her on Tuesday.)
I also found out that the Grandma is now going to drive the Birthmom to all of her visits to see the baby. The birthmom said that she has a good relationship with her parents now. (My social worker thinks that they might have no intention of adopting Sissy but wants her out of our home and is going to help their daughter to "appear" to be back on track so that she can have her and they just be grandparents again. Poor Sissy.
Bottom line is that I am tired and weary. They are wearing me out and I feel like I am hitting bottom. It is so good to trust in the Lord knowing that He has everything in control and I don't have to try and run the show like this grandma is. Honestly, I am just getting tired of doing everything by the book, running Sissy everywhere she needs to go, having social workers in and out of my house, loving on her, making sure that I am taking care of Ivy, checking my heart to make sure that I am honoring the Lord....it is enough to wear a girl out.
The Lord brought to my mind Galatians 6:9 " And let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up." Bottom line...I WILL NOT ALLOW SATAN TO BE VICTORIOUS IN MY HOME! He might think that he will ruin Matt and I and our family. HE IS NOT HAVING IT WHETHER IT IS MATT, I AND IVY OR IF SISSY IS WITH US TO. The End! ( I am feeling better already.)
Posted by Kelli at 5:04 PM
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
We just found out that our new court date is November 7th. (That is 2 weeks from this Friday. Fast!) They are going to see if the grandparents are certified and they are also going to open up their old files to see if they are suitable to have her with their past allegations. We are praying that the Judge says that they are not a suitable couple to adopt her. ( They never looked into any of this before because the grandparents had said before that they didn't want to adopt her so there was no need.)
The lawyer told Matt that Sissy shouldn't be taken from us before November 4th. Then who knows after that. It sounds like it is going to all come down to the Judge. Please continue to pray.
Posted by Kelli at 3:42 PM
Monday, October 20, 2008
Ok...I have told this story to a couple of people and they keep telling me that I have to write this on my blog. Fat Mommy has returned. With everything going on in our lives I have let the gym and Weight Watchers go by the wasteside. Here is a perfect example....
Last week when we went to court, Aunt Hollie came over to babysit (Thank You Aunt Hollie!) She brought Ivy a donut ( my favorite donut to be exact.) When we got home the girls were sleeping. When Hollie left, I went in the kitchen and noticed that there was over half of Ivy's donut sitting there. I thought to myself that surely she didn't want the rest...really that's not what I thought but I did think that she would not remember the donut tomorrow for breakfast so I ate it.
I went to wake Ivy up from her nap. I said, "Ivy you can get up now." She jumps out of bed yelling,"Donut Donut. Ivy eat her donut!" I panicked and told her that I ate it. She started crying really hard. ( I felt terrible!) So I quickly added, "You know that fudge bar that Daddy has been saving in the freezer? (The ones that are so big that she never gets to eat one.) " Do you want to eat that all by yourself?" Of course she said yes through her tears. So...Matt was out a Fudgie Bar after his dinner all because Fat Mommy had no self control.
...I know...I am ashamed of myself...
Friday, October 17, 2008
Ok...I always tease Wendy about finding new blogs and now I am guilty! I cannot stand watching cartoons with Ivy ( there are only a couple times in the day when I let her watch them) so I have gotten on the computer. Lately, I have found the best blogs on home and hospitality. Tonight I found such an encouraging blog on being a mom, homemaker and especially a mom raising godly girls. Please check it out. It is listed under the blogs I like (The Wise Woman Builds Her Home). You got to get excited about blogs that make you eager to clean your house, be a better mom, and live as a godly example to your family. I have found so many Christian ones out there. Gosh, I want to be the kind of woman who can write blogs like this. Enjoy!
Posted by Kelli at 7:51 PM
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Posted by Kelli at 2:26 PM
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Please remember to pray for Matt and I as we go to court tomorrow for Sissy.
"For God alone,O my soul,wait in silence, for my hope is from Him. Trust in Him at all times, O people: pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us."
Posted by Kelli at 10:59 AM
Thursday, October 9, 2008
I had the DCFS worker come to the house today. As usual, she didn't know too much. She did tell me that the birthmother has been talking to lawyers all along telling them that she would like the baby to go to the birthfather's family. She thinks that would be a good idea without even knowing them. I think she doesn't have a good relationship with her parents so she doesn't want them to have a relationship with her daughter.
I asked her to find out if the aunt wants to adopt her and she said that she would try to find out. (She has talked to the investgator before and never thought to ask that question.) To me, that answer would tell alot.
I just found out that the investigator does not have a good report about the aunt, BUT I also found out that now one set of the grandparents are interested in her. I don't know if it is the ones that Matt and I know (I think they would change their minds if they were afraid they were going to lose her to the other side of the family) or the birthfather's grandparents. I will let you know if I hear what the investigator says.
Please continue to lift this up in prayer. Less than a week to go until we go to court!
Posted by Kelli at 4:29 PM
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Sorry that I haven't updated in a while but there really hasn't been any news to tell. I just had a visit from my social worker. She gave me some more information....not really the news I was hoping for.
The aunt has been certified to take another child (Sissy) and she does want her. They are unclear if she wants to adopt her or not. But it looks like they might recommend that the aunt gets her.
They still have not done a DNA test on the birthfather like he wants. My social worker was trying to push for it. Saying that it would be a shame to move the baby and later find out that this baby isn't even related to the aunt. Everyone says that he is the father ( I think that he proubly is too) but the birthmom was an alleged prostitute so...why aren't they making sure?
The investigator was supposed to come out and see our house and has not done that yet. I think that he thinks that she is going to go to the aunt so what is the point? The hard part is that we can make phone calls but we can't make them do anything.
I asked my social worker when they would take the baby if the court decides with the aunt. She said it would proubly happen that day.
That is where I need to rest in the Lord. He knows what will happen. I still have hope in the Lord that He can do anything....and if He decides to take her, He will bring Matt , Ivy and I through. Please continue to pray for October 15th. Thanks
Posted by Kelli at 10:32 AM
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
P.S. Sissy isn't doing much better. We took her to the park today where she went pee pee all over Wendy! Ugh! Can I take my girls anywhere? I did have a good laugh at that one!
Posted by Kelli at 2:53 PM